Most of us have some habit we would like to change. It is something that is getting in our way. These habits may not be easy for us to see. Instead, we may notice certain messages. Perhaps we start encountering troubles at work, a friend stops returning calls, or we gain 8 pounds. Maybe the messages are more serious: we get fired, lose the friend, or have a heart attack. The messages are directing us to listen more deeply and attentively to our lives. When we listen to our lives, we can connect to what really matters. But first we have to train ourselves to listen. Take a moment right now. Notice you body. Are any muscles more tense than they need be (tense face, back or legs)? What about your thoughts? Is your mind preoccupied with something not related to what is happening now? Momentary focus on such considerations widens our perspective. Whatever the habit is, with this kind of space, it is more likely to lose intensity and allow growth and freedom.
People come to counseling in order to listen to the messages more closely and to discern new opportunities opening for themselves.
Jonathan R. Kelley, D.Min., LPC
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